at Singapore yesterday. Or so called just now. We
arrived at our doorstep at 1.30am. And i slept at 4.
Lol. Cos i couldnt fall asleep, and i was mind-typing
a blog post. Since there wasnt internet, i typed it
on Microsoft word. it took me around half an hour
i think. So i shall copy and paste it here. (:
Okay, the fact that its sooo long makes it seem a
little boring. But it isnt okay. :P Enjoy!
I think everyone has been through a situation, where you were once so close to this certain he or she. But now, both of you are like strangers. You’re not sure of who he or she is anymore. Back then, you could have stated 50+ facts about that he or she so easily. Maybe it was fate that brought you two together, and fate that tore you apart too.
It’s like you first start talking to that person, and it feels like you’ve known them for a long time. And you realize it’s really nice talking to them. One day, you realize you’re treating that he or she differently from others. Then you think, hmm, I think I treat a best friend this way, so I shall continue treating him or her this nice, since he or she treats me nice too. After some time, you find flaws in them. But you think, oh, being friends, I shall be able to accept his or her flaw. Then they accept your flaws too. Trust begins to build. More and more. And suddenly, you trust them so much, it’s becoming a disadvantage. Why? Because this much trust would only cause one thing in the future. Disappointment. You trust this person so much, that one tiny mistake they do, or an unexpected move they make would disappoint you, let you down. And come to think of it, it isn’t that big of a deal after all. But after every let-down, you tend to accept the fact, or something happens in between. And both of you become best friends again.
During this whole friendship, there will be highs and lows. Some situations higher, some lower. Happiness, sadness. Both in a unique way that no one has ever given you before. Then towards the end, you start doubting yourself. It all starts from that. When you doubt yourself, you feel insecure. When you feel insecure, you over-think. When you over-think, you start doubting others. And then argument and disagreements happen. After many times of those, you probably didn’t even expect the fact that the next one would take a toll on your friendship with him or her. And soon enough, you don’t get replies to good luck wishes and birthday wishes. But everyone hopes. You hope that he or she would probably reply to it. You keep telling yourself he or she won’t. But your subconscious mind clings to that hope.
If you’re lucky, maybe you guys might become best friends again one day. If you aren’t, that might be the end of your friendship. Both of you will probably meet another “potential best friend” and the whole cycle starts again. Then again, who knows what’ll happen? God decides your fate. But sometimes, you have a choice. Perhaps a choice to change fate. If you still care about the person you just abandoned, think about what you guys have been through. Thick and thin. Of course there are times where you guys have disagreements, but is it worth losing a friendship?
In that friendship between two people, there is probably one party who left the other. Or maybe both agreed on breaking this friendship. One way or another, leave with a reasonable explanation. Or one day, the whole situation will resurface after months or years, and you’ll have to appear in each other’s lives. Maybe even messing it up, unintentionally. So it’s always best to explain yourselves first, hear what each other has to say. There might be some misunderstandings you didn’t know about. It doesn’t matter if this applies to you with a friend, best friend, special friend, girlfriend, boyfriend, even an ex. Just think about what I said. Life is too short for regrets.
“If you care for something, you fight for it.”
– Captain Haddock; The Adventures of Tin Tin.
Tiffany signing off at 3.51am 29/11/11
So yeap, thats what i typed. It isnt for a
specific person, just so you know. I was
saying this in general. (: I'll update my blog
soon. Goodbye! (:
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